Throughout my young feminist life I was always convinced that I'd never change my surname when I got married. However, when I did get married it wasnt worth the fight to keep my name as it was important to my husband. I changed officially but not in my heart so the things dearest to me kept my maiden name eg my email and my signature and my initials. My main argument (to myself because noone really asked me about it) was that the maiden name part of me was still a part of me and didnt need to be replaced. Now five years later I'm feeling an internal urge to complete the process and get an email address with my new surname. Why though? Have I finally got used to being called mrs? Have i finally embraced my family in law? What does it mean for my 'old' surname and ideology? I think I'll wait a while before I make the change to see if I really mean it.
Five years on I'm also interested in getting a new wedding ring. I think I'm discovering that who I am now is different from who I was then. How has that affected other areas of my life? I believe these 2 changes are mere symptoms of some internal changes. I believe I may just have grown up... whatever that means!